If you have any contact with just about any pre-teen girl (or even some younger girl), were you to play the song "Let It Go"* you would find the girl singing along. It's the perfect entree for my topic of "what do I have to walk away from."
This may not seem like a problem, but it is for me. I need to stop trying to fix things. Now, I don't mean objects--while I tinker, and can pound in a nail, or do some such trivial thing, I am not the fixer of things in our family.
What I mean is--I need to stop trying to fix circumstances.
Herewith a few examples--I have a senior family member who depends on me to help out with things. While he is in a senior facility, he still needs help with going shopping to buy clothes, or having a button sewn on a shirt, or some other small task. It is his penchant to say, as he presents me with an item, "can you...?" I have been asked to change the fastener on slacks from one of those metal hook arrangements to a button/button hole or to take in slacks that are too loose. I have been asked to fix a printer (the sensor light kept flashing PAPER JAM) or failing that get a new one. I have been asked to...just fill in the blank.
My bent is to GO RIGHT TO IT...leap into action. With the slacks, I took them to a tailor who did as I asked. With the printer, I got a new one (the old one would have cost more to fix than a new one cost). Time and again, after I have done as requested, there is a second request. "I don't like the button and button hole; I wish I had not had it changed." Or "the slacks are too tight; I wish they were back the way they were." Or the printer--"I don't like it; I want my old one back."
So, I take the slacks home with me and let them out again. The button/button hole I can't reverse. The old printer I return, and take the new printer home.
OR--other examples. I enter a public bathroom and find trash all over the floor. Likely as not, I will pick up that trash and place it in the receptacle. Or, I see weeds growing in a neighbor's yard. My impulse is to pull them. Please note--I don't.
On and on--my personality bent is such that I just know I can improve something.**
Perhaps because of these recent experiences with the senior family member, I am learning that sometimes I just need to walk away.
Let it go, let it go.
* From the movie Frozen--you can listen to it here.
**If you know Myers-Briggs personality typing, I am an INTJ.